When it’s Time to Say Goodbye: Supporting Your Animals at End of Life

There's nothing like the love we feel for our beloved senior animal companions. They may have been with us for years, and we have likely shared a lot together. It's hard to see them aging. And it's difficult to know what to do to make sure they have a high quality of life in the time they have left with us.
Once we’ve brought them into our lives and they’ve established themselves in our hearts and homes, we know it’s a lifelong commitment. Like with our human seniors, animals require additional time, energy and support from us in their last chapters. Knowing some basic signposts and strategies can go a long way.

Living so close with our animals, we may not readily notice aging creep up. Before we know it, we begin to see changes. They sleep more, move more slowly. Their eyes may start to cloud as they begin to lose eyesight. Their hearing might start going and they may even have dementia episodes -yowling or barking incessantly at what seems like nothing. At first, we may be baffled by some of these new behaviors, but then we begin to realize what this means.
We may feel worried and powerless. One way to help with that is to prepare ahead of time. You can do research about aging, breed propensities, individual health issues and quality of life indicators. Make sure to have supports in place for your animal companion; veterinarian, chiropractor, homeopath, acupuncturist, animal communicator, energy healer and a plan for the ins and outs of euthanasia should it come to that.

Sometimes we forget that even if they begin to deteriorate and lose their capacities, they still love life and want to enjoy it to its fullest. It's up to us to make sure that happens. And it's also up to us to make sure they don't suffer needlessly.
Give your pets the benefit of the doubt that they know how to die. They may advance toward death and retreat again and again. I have worked with countless animals through situations where their guardians and veterinarians thought “They’re ready.” But given a chance, they rallied and lived more weeks, months, and even years. As your pets’ organs and systems deteriorate and shut down, their bodies calibrate to a new normal. When multiple systems go down, it may take the body a while to recalibrate. Give your animal the chance. One way to do this is to let them know the vet will be coming in a couple of days to help them pass. If they rally, you know they’re not ready.
As we focus on doing everything we can for our animals as both caregiver and family, it’s important to get support for ourselves. Make sure you are not alone as you walk with your animal companion through their last days. Watching someone you love die is one of the hardest things. Yet the greater the grief, the greater the love it reflects, and the greater the love the greater the grief we experience. Facing this takes tremendous courage, and it is ultimately a great gift. It honors our animals and makes us better people.







