Creating an Extraordinary 2021
How do you create an extraordinary year? Write down your goals and create New Year’s Resolutions, right? Oops, not so fast. Unfortunately, the average New Year’s Resolution lasts only 17 days! In three short weeks, your dreams and wishes for this year are fading back into normal patterns.
Why is this? Is it because we are weak? On the contrary, it is because we are extraordinary. Our brains are wired to see and create patterns. By having these patterns, we minimize the energy it takes to run our brains. Habits are a survival mechanism. It is estimated that 40% of our daily actions are habitual, meaning we are running on auto pilot. Patterns become pathways and then habits. It takes intentional and consistent care to create new patterns and override existing habits. “According to a study by the University College of London, the habit formation process took anywhere from 18 to 254 days, with the average habit taking 66 days to form.” Tom Corely We still need to dream, but we want these dreams to carry forward and become part of our lives!
I have a proposal for you. Let’s start 2021 with a collective gratitude streak. For the next 31 days, we will say thank you… a lot! Morning, noon, and night, for 31 days we practice being thankful. Instead of starting 2021 searching for what needs fixing, improving or removing, we spend our energy being thankful for who we are, where we are, what we are doing. Let’s be thankful for everything. As soon as we wake up, we say thank you, thank you, thank you! We see our day filled with reasons to be thankful. During the day, we sprinkle thankfulness and cultivate appreciation for even the tiniest of gifts. The very last thing we do before falling asleep is say ‘thank you’. Each night we ground our practice by recalling moments of our day that were beautiful, delicious, colorful, kind, sweet, serendipitous, extraordinary. We make note of what we are discovering and write down our blessing. We start with 31 consecutive days.
Being grateful is good medicine! Joshua Becker, an intentional living and minimalism expert, wrote an excellent article on the benefits of gratitude. He highly recommends the practice of actively stating our thankfulness.
This can:
-reduce stress
-help us feel more positive emotions
-unshackle us from toxic emotions
-improve our self-esteem
-decrease the symptoms of depression
-help us sleep better
-improve our interpersonal relationships
-enhances optimism helps us lower blood pressure, stop smoking and lose weight!
Well, that pretty much covers it! I am in, how about you? Imagine what is possible. Gratitude cultivation is a simple practice- a delightful habit-shifting pattern that will create extraordinary habits and one beautiful, extraordinary 2021.
I bet Marlene would have loved to have hosted a collective gratitude streak with her market and deli as the hub. I can see her smiling. She started Marlene’s as a tiny, natural foods shop. Look what she created from that simple beginning. How many lives has Marlene’s enhanced? Everything begins with a vision, so let’s listen to our hearts, be truly grateful and begin!
Denise Frakes is a home and life coach. She specializes in clutter clearing, stress reduction, un-busying, cultivating radiance and living nourished. She is a Master Energy EFT Practitioner, Transformational Life Coach, Healthy Home Specialist and owner of Blue Sky Services. Learn more at
www.denisefrakes.com
or contact Denise at dfbluesky@yahoo.com.






